One of the big questions that I get all the time is, “How do you successfully manage to find so many random people to have casual relationships with?”
I always reply with same answer…
“I’m constantly priming the pumps.”
To break that down a bit, when I meet someone, there’s a simple calculus running in my head that establishes whether I’d want to be with that person, what the chances are of that happening, and then I’m constantly re-evaluating the odds and behaving accordingly.
If I establish that this is someone that I’d like to spend time with in an intimate way, I try to remove friction as much as possible for them to come to the same position.
You want to get to a place where the odds are very favorable and then create opportunities for that to happen.
And that “creating the opportunities” part is the “priming the pumps” piece - you need to get yourself into a position where your desired action could happen and then give it a chance TO happen.
At almost any given time, I’ve got a half a dozen opportunities on the go and that’s not including the random opportunistic things that pop up.
I’m good with numbers, so I treat it like a numbers game - I give myself the highest number of high-quality chances to convert that I can and then let whatever natural charm and charisma that I have take over.
Ok, enough about me, let’s look into what we published this week!
I love Holly’s writing and so when she asked me if I had considered publishing erotic fiction on SexTend, the answer was “YES!”
Holly smashed it out of the park with this short story and erotic fiction will become another staple of SexTend now.
We also had the exceptional Lara Sterling publish her first story with SexTend earlier in the week.
Lara shares a story about what happened when she wrote some porn dialogue and then had to go onto the set to coach some of the actors.
As I mentioned, the week before last was pretty hectic for me, but early in the week, I ended up having an encounter with a woman that was well outside my usual “sweet spot” in terms of type.
Unusually, I wrote about it while it was fresh in my memory.
While I’m sexually adventurous and willing to try most things, my day-to-day sex life is pretty vanilla - I’m not into any kink, I don’t do hardcore BDSM, I’m not a sub or a dom naturally… I like pretty simple stuff.
But Loretta had some things she was into and I was only too happy to oblige.
Most of my life is pretty structured and a big part of it revolves around doing things for others and being available for what other people want and need.
But with my casual relationships… I focus on making those purely selfish.
It’s important to understand what I mean by “selfish” so check this one out!
I had a slow week from a publishing perspective personally, but SexTend was pretty busy, so click on these links to read some of the amazing stories we published
What a week of absolute filth for your reading pleasure?!?!
I’d like to thank you for reading our work and giving feedback, that means a lot.
I’d also like to thank the amazing writers who’ve contributed to SexTend this week: Holly Bradshaw, Lara Sterling, Louise Sawyer, and Demeter deLune - amazing work ladies, I personally enjoyed your contributions!
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Talk To You Soon,
DJ.