The idea of starting my Average Don Juan account on Medium would have seemed almost unthinkable back in June of 2019.
Life was coming at me from all sides - death and illness in the family, some health issues of my own, and some crazy job stuff were all taking place at the same time.
Every time I would pop my head up, some aspect of life would kick me in the plums.
Everything except my sex life… That was firing on all cylinders or so I thought, but irrespectively, it just was keeping me afloat mentally and emotionally.
I could escape for a few hours into the arms of a woman and lose myself - it was like getting high without the stupidity of drug use.
So then I thought, why not write about it?
I have been a successful erotica writer under a different pen name for some time and I enjoyed writing, so I knew how to craft a story.
Except now, it wouldn’t be fiction, it would be my own stories.
I’ve been doing it for about six weeks and THOUSANDS of people are reading my adventures, so I figured, why not create a newsletter so I can update people periodically and make sure they don’t miss out on anything!
And here we are…
Now, before we get started, let me give you a bit of context about me and my situation.
My personal situation might seem complicated to people on the outside looking in, but it’s not really. My wife and I have something of an unspoken understanding about the nature of our relationship and we abide by that code of conduct.
We’re in a committed relationship with each other and if something happens outside of that relationship that nobody knows about and there’s no embarrassing backlash, then it’s like a tree falling in the forest.
Over the years, my sexual preferences have expanded. I used to be exclusively heterosexual in my early-to-mid twenties, but as I began exploring sex more and having more sexual adventures, I became a bit more open-minded to trying new things with different people.
Now, I consider myself “predominantly heterosexual” but I’m open to trying anything and have probably already done so. I think having to slot yourself into a team is limiting and pointless.
Click here to read more about my thoughts on sexual identity.
More than anything though, I have learned that I just enjoy telling fun and interesting stories about the things that I’ve experienced with other people. I focus on remaining “sex-positive” with the stories that I share because that’s a philosophy that I really believe in - we all need to be able to be fully comfortable with who we are and what we enjoy sexually.
For me, I try and tackle it with a bit of descriptive language and a witty turn of phrase, but I do try really hard to always be respectful.
Click here to read this post where I share a few funny experiences.
The last thing worth talking about is that I have started to occasionally answer reader questions that have been sent to me by email. I originally found it hilarious that people would send some random guy who writes smut on the internet questions about their sex life, but now I enjoy reading them and answering.
To be fair, I take it pretty seriously and try to answer the questions properly - of course, my natural clowning personality means I make light of stuff, but I do try and answer thoughtfully.
You can ask a question by sending an email to: averagedonjuan@gmail.com
Click here to read some of my answers to recent questions.
That’s probably a good enough introduction to the enigma, wrapped in a riddle that is Average Don Juan.
To read more of what I have written, then pop over to my profile on Medium and check out my archive. There’s a fair bit there now, so that should keep you entertained for a little while.
If you like what you read from me, I’d appreciate claps on Medium and for you to share my pieces and stories to your friends and followers on social media!
That’s it for now, talk soon…
DJ.